Well your comparison to Memorial day was a bad one. According to at least one study (yes, NFF, i am sure it is not peer-reviewed and should be disregarded unless it shows that COVID is the Bubonic Plague...just to save you the time to point that out): of Americans who moved to a nursing home for their final months or years of life, 65 percent died there within one year. https://www.ucsf.edu/news/2010/08/98172/social-support-key-nursing-home-length-stay-death#:~:text=The average age of participants,study died within six months.
So with about 40% of the COVID deaths coming from nursing homes...well you can do the math and draw your own conclusions.
By the way, interesting quote from that 2010 article: “One quarter of all deaths in the United States occur in nursing homes, and that figure is expected to rise to 40 percent by the year 2020,”